Any competent child psychologist will tell you that all children are not wired the same way. Some have a laid-back disposition while others are spirited. It follows that if you are raising a spirited child, you should consider the child’s temperament. Now, we have to point out that the word spirited does not have a negative connotation. In the context of this article, “spirited” simply means determined, intense, energetic and persistent. Raising your spirited child means you should consider the child’s peculiar qualities and figure out ways to bring out the best in the child. Below are some smart ways to raise your spirited child without breaking his or her spirit.
Interpret the Signs Correctly
Spirited children will definitely have some or even most of the following characteristics:
*They want to know why they should obey instructions because do not accept instructions at face value.
*They want to be masters of their own destinies so they do not easily accept authority.
*They are strong-willed and are ready to fight for what they perceive as their rights.
*They are sensitive, opinionated and argumentative.
If you encounter some of these qualities in your own children, you should recognize them for what they are and create strategies to cope with these qualities. You can bring out the best in your children if you apply some of the strategies below.
Do Not Compete
Do not get into a superiority battle with your child. You are in charge and there is no room for competition here. Take your time to explain this to the child. Be patient with the child and use logical reasoning to put your points across to the child.
Give the Child Tasks
Now, your spirited child wants to take a position of responsibility. This is a great opportunity for you to wear “the smart parenting hat”. Give the child certain responsibilities and promise rewards if the task is properly accomplished. This is a smart move because you are nurturing the child’s leadership qualities already.
Set and Enforce Limits
Your spirited child does not like limits and restrictions. Now, you cannot train children without enforcing limits. Set limits but explain why you have set these limits. For instance, you should set limits for watching television, surfing the web and playing video games. Once you have explained the reason for these limits, you should appoint your spirited child to enforce these limits (within reason) and report back to you.
Final Word
As you can see, raising your spirited child is not rocket science. Use your initiative and you will get the best out of your persistent and determined child.
